So.... I'm dating someone
new. We've been out 4 times now, and on each date she's been at least 30
minutes late. I'm heading to the meet and I get a text about two minutes before
the meet time, and it usually reads like this. “Hey... Gonna be late, be there
in 30”
So sending the text before
the meet time establishes that she knows how time works. But, a text 30 minutes
earlier would have probably kept me off the road and not waiting holding my
wang for 30 minutes until she arrived. Letting me know you're going to be late
is only valuable if it provides me the opportunity to make a correction on my end.
So is this the markings of a selfish person or just an inconsiderate one?
Time is abstract and
subjective in and of itself, but some brilliant person a very long time ago
created a measure of time that is objective. 15 minutes may seem a blink of an
eye to a child, but can feel like an eternity to someone in crisis. So in that sense
time is relative, but the fact that 15 minutes is exactly 15 minutes is not in question.
Is the devaluing of time
generational? Meaning as our society changes, and evolves does the integers of
time have less meaning? There was a time, not too long ago, when if you wanted
to see your favorite television show you had to be in front on the TV when it
was being broadcast. The very definition of appointment television. Now very
few consume television that way. Teleworking, and flex time have devalued the 8
hour work day, as we rapidly segue into a world where 9 to 5 is a relic, and only significant as the
title of a bad 80's movie. Am I the relic for still valuing time as much as I
do? Is time just a unit? Are the feelings I ascribe to time antiquated? Is an
appointment negotiatble? Is it fungible? Is it optional?
I'm 44. I date younger
women, not as a choice... it just happens that way. What I've been noticing
recently is I make plans, and I get a text (from my time respecting friends)
the day of... asking “are we still on for today?” This bothers me because if I
had a change of plans I would have sent a notification immediately, and I hope I
would get that consideration in kind. Is this the BAIL generation I'm dealing
with? Do people bail on plans that easily? Is every outing a face-off of competing events? Is this an unintended consequence of
trafficking in millennials?
So... I like this girl.
She's very attractive, and no-doubt she's been given a ton of latitude in life
due to her beauty. I can even say that her tardiness doesn't bother me as much
as it should, and I'm disappointed in myself on that point. I'm not dwelling in
it, but I am logging it for later recall.
Can I be in a meaningful
relationship with a time gypsy?Am I a time Nazi? Is there a healthy middle?
The pursuit sometimes clouds
the specifics. I'm sure once she's been captured a few times, the tardiness
will become exibit A in the case to deconstruct. I'm just wondering aloud to
myself...will this be the standard going forward? Is time rigid or flexible? Am
I a dinosaur or a standard bearer? I guess only TIME will tell !!!
No comments:
Post a Comment